BIBILIYA ivuga ko umugabo agomba ‘gukunda umugore we nk’uko yikunda.’ Umugore na we agomba “kubaha cyane umugabo we.” Bombi bagomba gusohoza inshingano zabo ari “umubiri umwe” (Efe 5:33; Intang 2:23, 24). Uko igihe gihita, bagenda barushaho kunga ubumwe, kandi urukundo bakundana rukarushaho kwiyongera. Nk’uko imizi y’ibiti bibiri byakuriye hamwe iba isobekeranye, ni na ko ubwo bumwe bw’abashakanye burushaho gukomera.

Ariko se, bigenda bite iyo umwe muri bo apfuye? Icyo gihe uwo murunga w’ubumwe bari bafitanye, noneho uba ucitse. Akenshi upfakaye asigarana intimba n’irungu, kandi wenda akumva arakaye cyangwa yicira urubanza. Mu myaka 58 Daniella yamaranye n’uwo bashakanye, yagiye abona abantu benshi bapfusha abo bashakanye. * Ariko umugabo we amaze gupfa, yaravuze ati “sinari narigeze niyumvisha akababaro gaterwa no gupfusha uwo mwashakanye. Umuntu abyumva ari uko bimubayeho.”

Hari abashakashatsi bavuze ko nta gihangayikisha cyane nko gupfusha uwo mwashakanye. Abantu benshi bapfushije abo bashakanye bemera ko ibyo ari ukuri. Uwitwa Millie umaze imyaka myinshi apfushije umugabo, yaravuze ati “numva naranegekaye.” Yavugaga uko yumva amerewe nyuma yo gupfusha umugabo we bari bamaranye imyaka 25.

 Kera Susan yumvaga ko abapfakazi bamara imyaka myinshi baririra abo bashakanye baba bakabya kugaragaza agahinda. Hanyuma, yaje gupfusha umugabo we bari bamaranye imyaka 38. Ubu hashize imyaka isaga 20 apfakaye, ariko yaravuze ati “buri munsi ntekereza umugabo wanjye.” Incuro nyinshi arizwa no kumva amukumbuye.

Bibiliya ivuga ko gupfusha uwo mwashakanye bitera intimba ikomeye kandi imara igihe kirekire. Igihe Sara yapfaga, umugabo we Aburahamu ‘yinjiye mu ihema aramuborogera, aramuririra cyane’ (Intang 23:1, 2). Nubwo Aburahamu yizeraga ko hazabaho umuzuko, yagize agahinda kenshi igihe yapfushaga umugore we yakundaga cyane (Heb 11:17-19). Igihe Yakobo yapfushaga umugore we yakundaga cyane ari we Rasheli, ntiyigeze amwibagirwa. Yabwiye abahungu be ibya Rasheli afite ubwuzu bwinshi.—Intang 44:27; 48:7.

Izo ngero zo mu Byanditswe zitwigisha iki? Zitwigisha ko akenshi abapfakazi bamara imyaka myinshi bagifite intimba. Twagombye kubona ko amarira yabo n’agahinda bagira bitagaragaza ko bafite intege nke, ahubwo ko ari ibyiyumvo bisanzwe biterwa no gupfusha abo bashakanye. Bashobora gukenera ko tumara igihe tubumva kandi tubafasha.

Iyo umuntu apfushije uwo bashakanye, ntiyongera kuba nk’uko yari ameze akiri umuseribateri. Umugabo umaze imyaka myinshi yarashatse, aba azi uko ahumuriza umugore we mu gihe ababaye cyangwa ahangayitse. Iyo apfuye, umugore abura ihumure n’urukundo by’umugabo we. Mu buryo nk’ubwo, uko igihe kigenda gihita umugore amenya icyo yakora kugira ngo ahumurize umugabo we, kandi atume agira ibyishimo. Uko amukoraho, amagambo meza amubwira, uko yita ku byo akenera no ku bimushishikaza, nta cyo yabinganya na cyo. Iyo apfuye, umugabo we ashobora kumva nta ho asigaye. Ku bw’ibyo, bamwe mu bapfushije abo bashakanye bumva bahangayikishijwe n’iby’igihe kizaza, ndetse bikabatera ubwoba. Ni irihe hame ryo muri Bibiliya ryabafasha kumva batuje kandi bafite amahoro?

Bibiliya igira iti “ntimugahangayikishwe n’iby’umunsi w’ejo, kuko umunsi w’ejo uzaba ufite imihangayiko yawo. Buri munsi uba ufite ibibi byawo bihagije” (Mat 6:34). Nubwo ayo magambo ya Yesu yerekeza mu buryo bwihariye ku bintu by’umubiri dukenera, yafashije benshi kwihanganira akababaro kenshi batewe no gupfusha abo bashakanye. Igihe umugabo witwa Charles yari amaze amezi runaka apfushije umugore we, yaravuze ati “nkumbura Monique cyane, kandi hari igihe numva urukumbuzi rundenze. Icyakora, mbona ko ibyo ari ibintu bisanzwe kandi ko uko igihe gihita, intimba mfite izageraho ikagabanuka.”

Koko rero, Charles yagombaga gutegereza yihanganye ko “igihe gihita.” Yabishoboye ate? Yagize ati “Yehova yamfashije kudahangayikishwa n’iby’ejo.” Charles ntiyaheranywe n’agahinda. Yego intimba ye ntiyahise ishira, ariko nta n’ubwo yanegekajwe na yo. Niba warapfushije uwo mwashakanye, ntugahangayikishwe n’iby’ejo. Bucya bucyana ayandi.

 Igihe Yehova yaremaga abantu, ntiyashakaga ko bapfa. Ahubwo urupfu ni kimwe mu bigize “imirimo ya Satani” (1 Yoh 3:8; Rom 6:23). Satani akoresha urupfu n’ubwoba rushobora gutera, kugira ngo aheze abantu mu bubata kandi ntibagire ibyiringiro (Heb 2:14, 15). Yishimira kubona umuntu yiheba akumva ko atazigera agira ibyishimo nyakuri, naho byaba mu isi nshya Imana idusezeranya. Bityo rero, agahinda uwapfushije uwo bashakanye agira ni ingaruka z’icyaha cya Adamu n’uburiganya bwa Satani (Rom 5:12). Yehova azakuraho burundu ibibi byose byatewe na Satani, kandi avaneho intwaro ikomeye cyane akoresha, ari yo rupfu. Mu bantu bazavanwa mu bubata bwa Satani bwo gutinya urupfu hazaba harimo benshi bapfushije abo bashakanye, nk’uko nawe bishobora kuba byarakubayeho.

Nyuma y’umuzuko, ku isi hazaba ihinduka rikomeye mu mibanire y’abantu. Tekereza ku babyeyi n’abakurambere bazazuka maze bakagenda buhoro buhoro baba abantu batunganye, bari kumwe n’abana babo n’abuzukuru babo. Ingaruka ziterwa no gusaza zizavanwaho. Abakiri bato baziga kubona abakurambere babo mu buryo butandukanye cyane n’uko bababona muri iki gihe. Iryo hinduka rizatuma imibanire y’abantu irushaho kuba myiza.

Hari ibibazo byinshi abantu bashobora kwibaza ku birebana n’abazazuka, urugero nko kumenya uko bizagendekera umuntu wapfakaye incuro zirenze imwe. Abasadukayo babajije ikibazo kirebana  n’umugore wapfushije umugabo we wa mbere, agapfusha n’uwa kabiri, nyuma yaho akaza gupfusha n’abandi batanu (Luka 20:27-33). Bose nibamara kuzuka bizagenda bite? Ntituzi uko bizagenda, kandi nta mpamvu yo gukekeranya ku bintu Bibiliya itagira icyo ivugaho cyangwa ngo biduhangayikishe. Icyo dukwiriye gukora ni ukwiringira Imana. Icyo tuzi cyo ni uko ibyo Yehova azakora byose bizaba ari byiza. Ni ibyo gutegerezanya amatsiko, si ibyo gutinya.

Imwe mu nyigisho zisobanutse neza ziri mu Ijambo ry’Imana ni ivuga ko abo twakundaga bapfuye bazazuka. Inkuru zo muri Bibiliya zivuga iby’abantu bazutse ni gihamya y’uko ‘abari mu mva bose bazumva ijwi rya [Yesu] bakavamo’ (Yoh 5:28, 29). Abantu bazaba bariho icyo gihe bazishimira guhura n’abazaba bavanywe mu nzara z’urupfu. Ku rundi ruhande, ntidushobora kwiyumvisha ibyishimo abazazuka bazagira.

Uko abapfuye bazagenda bazuka, ku isi hazaba ibyishimo bitigeze kubaho. Abantu babarirwa muri za miriyari bapfuye bazongera kubaho (Mar 5:39-42; Ibyah 20:13). Gutekereza kuri icyo gitangaza kizaba mu gihe kiri imbere byagombye guhumuriza abantu bose bapfushije ababo.

Ese abapfuye nibamara kuzuka, hari umuntu uzongera kumva ababaye? Bibiliya ivuga ko nta we. Muri Yesaya 25:8 havuga ko Yehova ‘azamira bunguri urupfu kugeza iteka ryose.’ Ibyo bikubiyemo kuzavanaho burundu ibintu byose bibabaje biterwa n’urupfu, kuko ubwo buhanuzi bukomeza bugira buti “Umwami w’Ikirenga Yehova azahanagura amarira ku maso yose.” Niba muri iki gihe ufite agahinda uterwa n’uko wapfushije uwo mwashakanye, nta gushidikanya ko umuzuko uzatuma wishima.

Nta muntu n’umwe usobanukiwe neza ibintu byose Imana izakora mu isi nshya. Yehova agira ati “nk’uko ijuru risumba isi, ni ko n’inzira zanjye zisumba izanyu, n’ibyo ntekereza bisumba ibyo mutekereza” (Yes 55:9). Isezerano Yesu yatanze ry’uko hazabaho umuzuko rituma twiringira Yehova nk’uko Aburahamu yamwiringiye. Icyo buri Mukristo  asabwa ni ugukora ibyo Imana ishaka, bityo akaba mu “bakwiriye kuzahabwa ubuzima mu isi izaza,” hamwe n’abazazuka.—Luka 20:35.

Aho guhangayikishwa n’iby’igihe kizaza, jya ukomeza gutekereza ku byiringiro bihebuje ufite. Abantu benshi bumva ko nta cyiza kiri imbere. Ariko Yehova we adusezeranya ibintu byiza mu gihe kizaza. Nubwo tutazi neza uko Yehova azaduha ibyo dukenera byose n’uko azahaza ibyifuzo byacu, ntitwagombye gushidikanya ko azabikora. Intumwa Pawulo yaranditse ati “ibyiringiro by’icyo wabonye ntibiba bikiri ibyiringiro. None se iyo umuntu abonye ikintu, akomeza kucyiringira? Ariko iyo twiringiye icyo tutabona, dukomeza kugitegereza twihanganye” (Rom 8:24, 25). Kwiringira byimazeyo amasezerano y’Imana bizagufasha kwihanganira urupfu rw’uwo mwashakanye. Nukomeza kwihangana, uzabaho muri icyo gihe gishimishije, ubwo Yehova “azaguha ibyo umutima wawe wifuza.” Azahaza “ibyifuzo by’ibifite ubuzima byose.”—Zab 37:4; 145:16; Luka 21:19.

Igihe Yesu yari hafi gupfa, intumwa ze zarahangayitse cyane. Yesu yazihumurije agira ati “ntimuhagarike imitima. Mwizere Imana, nanjye munyizere.” Yarazibwiye ati “sinzabasiga mu bwigunge. Nzagaruka aho muri” (Yoh 14:1-4, 18, 27). Ayo magambo yavuze yari gutuma abigishwa be basutsweho umwuka bagira ibyiringiro kandi bakihangana mu gihe cy’ibinyejana byinshi. Abantu bifuza cyane kuzongera kubona ababo bapfuye, na bo ntibakwiriye kwiheba. Yehova n’Umwana we ntibazabasiga mu bwigunge. Nawe ushobora kubyiringira rwose!